My God is greater, Edward is hotter, and other pointless arguments

Christian vs. Atheist; Republican vs. Democrat; M.D. vs D.C.; Vegan vs. Meat-itarian; Edward vs. Jacob. You’d think we all lived on separate planets with all of the divisions we’ve created. For some reason, we feel we have to fight these ‘versus’ wars in order to convince others of our truth. But if everyone believes that they are right, then what is real truth anyways? Are we all right or just some of us? Perhaps we’re all wrong? Most people don’t go so far as to consider these questions and maintain the common notion: ‘I know that I’m right, so you must be wrong’.

A closed-mind is only a clever mask to hide fear and insecurity. If your beliefs equal absolute truth, then you can ignore all contradictory evidence that might make you doubt them. Sometimes closed-mindedness is mistaken for confidence. But being confident with your beliefs does not mean sticking to them no matter what; it means being able to openly and critically evaluate all of the information available and risk being wrong. Despite what many doctrines say, it’s okay for your beliefs to change! You are much more than the sum of your beliefs, and there is no one belief that will bring you eternal happiness, economic resolution or (enter desired outcome here). When you are open to new truths and can assimilate them into your perspective you allow your spirit and mind to evolve as you were meant to.

If you really don’t want to ‘fall for anything’, why not adopt an open mind rather than a rigid belief?

Beliefs are subjective by nature. They are formed by our experiences and our experiences are filtered through our own unique lenses of perception and our perception is framed by our cultural, linguistic and biological nature. You get the complexity. All truth is relative, and therefore should differ from person to person.

How can I expect someone who lives in a different country, speaks a different language with different experiences and values, to see God the same way I do? How can we expect to press our political ideologies on people of a desperate country without offense and great resistance? We aren’t meant to decide these things for each other. We only know what’s right for us. The world will never be completely Christian, or Muslim, or Metaphysical, or Atheist, so why keep trying to have these pointless arguments about who is right?

There will never be a time when everyone believes the same thing. But perhaps there could be a time when people believe the same way—openly and without judgment. If we could just be open to the idea that perhaps there’s not just one right belief system, then maybe we will be able to coexist peacefully, be inspired by each other and realize that our commonalities far outweigh our differences. This shift is already happening. More and more people are witnessing this change within themselves and it’s only a matter of time before it expands outwards to families, schools, churches, cities and nations.

Instead of arguing against Christianity and all the ways it’s gone wrong, why not explore where it’s gone right and what good it brings to people? Instead of insulting veganism, why not humour yourself and look into the health benefits? Instead of slapping a 13 year old because she said that Jacob was hotter than Edward… let it go. Neither of them are that good looking anyways… : ) Being open to new ideas does not make you vulnerable to the coercion of ignorance. Being closed does. The way we believe has got to change. At the end of the day, we are all in the same boat, and while we continue on as though we are not, we are all still at risk of sinking.



  1. “A closed-mind is only a clever mask to hide fear and insecurity.”…and maybe the occasional ignorance.

    Thanks for taking the time to follow my blog…I hope you will find it worth your while.

    Be encouraged!

  2. Loved reading this! How insightful you are and I must say I agree totally! By the way…Super blog!


    1. Thanks for reading! I’m glad you enjoyed it, Kay.

  3. MindMindful · · Reply

    Here’s to open minds!!!

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    1. Thanks for the nomination!

  4. I loved this post! My wife loves “Twilight”, but even she recognizes the senselessness of the whole Team Edward vs. Team Jacob hysteria!

    1. I loved the books too, but I had to poke fun at that whole Edward vs. Jacob war. Such silliness.

  5. This is beautifully written and very insightful! I loved reading it.

    1. Thanks Sarah. I enjoyed your blog as well.

  6. Any hints on how to access that open mind? I have a neighbor with a very different outlook, but one magical day shortly after 9/11, we had a real conversation where we both listened to each other and discovered that we both want everyone to thrive. We just had different ideas about how that could happen. I’m not sure what we did right that day (i.e. how we managed to listen), cause it hasn’t quite happened again. It sure was a good feeling though!

    1. Perhaps when tragedy strikes, the bigger picture is remembered. We are all human. We all live on this planet. We all feel pain and joy and have unique experiences that shape our beliefs. As for accessing an open mind, all I know is that we can only control our own thoughts. We can be open even among all of the ‘versus’ thinking around us. : ) Thank you so much for commenting.

  7. What a fabulous post! I completely agree with you. I find it ridiculous how divided we can all be at times and how convinced we are that our opinions are infallible. Loved reading this 🙂

    1. No truth is absolute in my books. Especially truths as personal as our opinions and beliefs. Thank you for reading! Have a great day.

  8. Some really great work you are doing here. Thanks for sharing and keep it up. May God bless you and keep you strong as you work towards your purpose and move swiftly towards your destination.

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